When the topic of marriage comes up in a relationship, there are generally three different reactions by the significant other. The three reactions are indifferent, against it or for it. While taking the step to get married is a life changing decision, it is important not to take the initial reaction as the sole deciding factor on whether or not it is time to make that lifelong commitment.
Gowns are Not Forever
If you have decided that you want to marry your significant other because you know that you are ready for your perfect wedding, you may want to step back and think a little harder. While it is wonderful and feels fantastic to go dress shopping, have a night out in celebration and even feel pretty or handsome on that special day, those are not good reasons to get married. Remember that marriage is forever, but gowns can be bought, sold and thrown away. Make sure that your spouse-to-be is indispensable and irreplaceable.
It is About that Time
Relationships cannot be compared to other relationships. Every person moves at his/her own pace, and relationships are no different. Just because it only took Joe and Sally one year to realize they were meant to be does not mean that your relationship has to go down the same path. You will know that you are ready when you no longer feel that tinge of jealousy when an ex’s name comes into the conversation, when you know that your significant other wants nothing more to make you happy and when you know that you only want to make your significant other happy. There is not a set amount of time to fall in love, so do not rush it.
In Love with the Thought of Love
Everyone wants to find that special someone who can complete him/her, but that is no reason to rush it. Before you decide that marriage is right for you, know the other person’s faults and flaws, and know that you can accept them and be happy in spite of them. Do not fall in love with the idea of being in love, but fall in love with the person that you are with. More and more divorces are taking place because people simply do not understand each other in the way that a husband and wife should before deciding to take that next step. If you do not want to be getting a divorce later on down the road, make sure that your significant other and you are on the same page.
Getting married is not something that should be taken lightly. There should be discussions about the future, past and present in order to fully understand where your significant other has been, is now and wants to go in the future. Taking time to get to know him/her is extremely important. If you have never seen one flaw in your significant other, you may be in love with the idea of being in love instead of being in love with your future spouse.
Marcie has been working with couples and individuals for over 8 years. Helping them start off right, strengthen and enhance their relationships and even avoid divorce. Her company, Love Your Relationship, focuses on telephone counseling.
